(I may be the crazy lady they were looking for…)

I want to fast forward to March 8th. ;-)

“I’m setting myself up for a lot of heartache in my life.”

You and me both.

“I’ve realised that I don’t have much of anything thought out with regard to how I should feel about a girl in a romantic relationship.”

Maybe you shouldn’t think. Maybe you should just feel. :-)

After considering your thoughts I do agree in part. You are right about being single and sometimes having to have certain conversations. Obviously, it would be irresponsible and even wrong for a married person to discuss something like that with someone other than his or her spouse — except when telling the person that it’s just not meant to be if the other person brings it up.

I think even before I was married and even before I was dating my husband the whole attraction conversation served to make a few relationships awkward. It got in the way when the other person wanted to bring it up and then the friendship was never the same again. I guess you have to be willing to take the risk if you know you feel something toward someone that you want to pursue. Sometimes it’s better to stay friends. I’d say waiting and getting to know someone is probably the only security a single person has against those awkward, lost friendships.

I suppose this is where my blogging for myself and making sure I communicate clearly to anyone who reads clash

I would like to think that in the case where a person is in a covenant relationship that another individual would respect that and not even bring up the matter of sexual tension. Love is not a feeling. It is a decision. According to the Scriptures it is a command. So the idea that married people would discuss something of that nature with a person who isn’t their spouse is one that is a very dangerous one in my book.

I think with young people around our age of life, especially in Christian circles, the whole subject needs to be discussed in an appropriate manner if one party feels it is an issue. People need to be wise and exercise discernment in how they interact and who they discuss things with but if it’s proving to be a problem ignoring it solves nothing for me.

My response to attraction is to accept it, ignore it and move on to the friends portion of the friendship.

That’s a wise attitude for a person in a marriage. I’m just not sure it’s necessarily as wise for two single friends. Ideally they would discuss it with the people they are in covenant with and then limit their interaction alone or something like that. Hormones and emotions don’t handle logic well though and that’s my fear.

As for the rest of your post, I haven’t thought of anything I can say about it and I probably won’t.